Tipping Points of Emotional Intelligence

Tipping Points of Emotional Intelligence

            Boyatzis (2006) wrote that a good (effective) leader distinguishes him or herself from their contemporaries through his or her enhanced competencies.  In the context of this topic, competencies are described as those behavioral abilities or attributes needed to be successful in a job (University of Nottingham, 2016).  Whether one is a leader or a follower, competencies are considered “necessary” to successful performance (Boyatzis, 2006).  Riggio (2010) asserted that the most successful leaders possess these top ten leadership competencies – the competencies are social intelligence, interpersonal skills, emotional intelligence, prudence, courage, conflict management, decision-making, political skills, influence skills, and area expertise/competence.  I want to highlight that Boyatzis (2006) wrote that, “Some of the competencies related to effectiveness reflect cognitive intelligence, but many of them are behavioral manifestations of emotional intelligence” (p. 124).  If one notices, many of the aforementioned competencies (top ten) are related to one’s behavior, that is, his or her expression of personal emotion e.g. courage or perceiving others emotions e.g. interpersonal skills.  Thus, while success may be attributed to one having a high intelligence e.g. IQ, it seems that the truly successful are those who are in tune with their and others emotions.   

            Therefore, as a leader I ask myself, “How many of these competencies do I have?”  My response is that I believe I have demonstrated every one of the aforementioned competencies.  Yet, as I reflect, I consider the following question, “How well have I demonstrated my competencies?”  It is one thing to have done something, and yet another to have done something well (or even have mastery).  However, how do I quantitatively measure my “levels” of competency?  Boyatzis (2006) wrote that a ‘tipping point analysis’ helps examine “how much of the competency is sufficient for outstanding performance” (p. 214).  In his research, Boyatzis used mathematical models to determine a correlation between those deemed “superior” (in terms of performance) and the frequency in which they demonstrated a particular competency (as observed by others).  The ‘tipping point’ was the frequency in which those competencies were displayed – on a scale of 1-3: 3= consistently and frequently; 2= occasionally; 1= rarely or never (Boyatzis, 2006, p. 128).  For instance, the tipping point for the competency ‘empathy’ was 2.78 – the correlation was that a “superior” performer demonstrated empathy ‘consistently and frequently’.  Other competencies that correlated with superior performance included planning, achievement orientation, adaptability, conscientiousness, values learning, coaching, and systems thinking (Boyatzis, 2006, p. 130).

            Yet, the ‘tipping point’ is more than simply demonstrating a competency more frequently; it is demonstrating the competency (or competencies) at the right moment.  For instance, when I have demonstrated empathy for others, did I do it when they needed it the most?  Did I demonstrate compassion (turning my empathy into action)?  The tipping point may also be that moment when a competency is realized.  A tipping point in which I realized a competency occurred early in my Army career – the competency I speak of is ‘values learning’.  I have written before in my reflection blogs and general assignments that as a teen, I was rudderless and without direction.  I was not in control of my emotions and actions.  Yet, all of that somehow (and inexplicably) changed when I joined the Army.  The competency of values learning was invoked by leaders; those who would coach and mentor me.  It would be hard for me to attribute this to any one person, therefore, I will recall those I who believe were influential in this development e.g. Mitch McCall, Jaime Aburto, and Ricky Yates to name a few.  The values that I learned (and live to this day) are loyalty, duty, respect, selfless-service, honor, integrity, and personal courage.  It is no coincidence that these values are the Army’s core values and carry the apt acronym LDRSHIP.  The leaders I mentioned demonstrated these values and encouraged me to do the same.  They inspired me though their personal example.  They taught me what to do.  Ricky constantly told me, “If you always do the right thing, you will never have regrets”. 

            I believe that my other competencies would not have developed if I had lacked core values.  For instance, my learned values laid the foundation for which I could build by social and emotional intelligence.  Having core values and living by those values is self-management.  Self-management enabled me to engage my emotions in a way that was positive.

References

Boyatzis, R. (2006). Retrieved from Psicothema: http://www.psicothema.com/pdf/3287.pdf

Riggio, R. (2014, April 27). Retrieved from Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/201404/the-top-10-leadership-competencies

University of Nottingham. (2016, July 11). Retrieved from www.nottingham.ac.uk: https://www.nottingham.ac.uk/hr/guidesandsupport/performanceatwork/pdpr/pdpr-behavioural-competency-guide/what-are-competencies.aspx

Working with EI: Getting Results!

           I have always been driven by emotion; however, I have not always had emotional intelligence (EI).  Goleman asserted that self-awareness is knowing what we are feeling and why we are feeling it (Goleman, 2012).  He further adds that self-awareness leads to good decision-making and having a moral compass.  So then, when I was younger (around ages 16 – 18), I completely lacked self-awareness.  I often had the emotions of being angry, hurt, selfish, and insecure.  This stemmed from my upbringing and environment.  I grew up in a low-income household in a tough city (El Paso, TX).  I ran the streets with gang members – I connected with those who were like me, those who didn’t have much and wanted more but didn’t know how to get it.  As a result, I had a “me against the world” mentality.  I felt as if everything were conspiring to keep me an outcast in life.  I had little self-control and acted impulsively, and I often made bad decisions.  Fortunately, I decided to join the Army.  My new job took me away from the things that had negatively influenced me and gave me purpose.  Moreover, my life had structure and I had a path to follow.  My self-awareness had changed.  My emotions changed to energetic, hopeful, and optimistic.  Yet, there was still a bit of anger – anger at those who would continue to doubt and/or marginalize me – but I used the emotion to motivate me to achieve.  To this day, I am still driven by emotion but I recognize which ones are constructive and which are destructive.

            Yet, self-awareness was not enough because I was still (as some people called me) a “hot-head”.  Although I knew which emotions were destructive, I acted on them out of impulse.  Therefore, I needed the EI for self-management.  Self-management is described as “managing one’s internal states, impulses, and resources” (Boyatzis, 2009).  As time passed, I began to mature and became a young leader.  I started to understand the need for self-management and particularly the need for emotional self-control.  Early in my career, I had learned hard lessons about losing control, or to put it another way, giving in to my vices.  As my self-control improved, I derived other benefits – I adjusted to change easier, was achievement oriented, and had an overall positive outlook.  Being positive gave me strength; I wasn’t fearful of obstacles or failure.  Goleman (2012) said that self-management is being able to “handle your distressing emotions in effective ways so they don’t cripple you”.  A favorite quote of mine is from Admiral (retired) James Stockdale who once said, “The test of character is not ‘hanging in there’ when you expect a light at the end of the tunnel, but performance of duty and persistence of example when you know that no light is coming” (Department of the Army, 1985, p. 19).   I was becoming that leader whom I aspired to be, one who would lead by example.

            To become a good leader, I also needed social awareness and social skills.  Social awareness, described as a competency of social intelligence, refers to a relationship with others and awareness of their feelings, needs, and concerns (Boyatzis, 2009).  A significant emotion that I had to develop as a young leader was empathy.  Although I understood others struggles, I seldom empathized.  I had pulled myself up from my own “bootstraps”, so why couldn’t they?  I felt that it was enough when I gave them an example that good things happen when you have purpose and grit.  However, I realized that as leader, I had the responsibility for my followers’ well-being, both in their personal lives and in work.  Moreover, I recognized that I had only become who I was because I was fortunate to have leaders that cared for me.  My leaders had coached and mentored me, inspired me, and influenced my emotions and actions.  They made me better.  Thus, I want to do the same for others.

References

Boyatzis, R. (2009). Competencies as a behavioral approach to emotional intelligence. Journal of Managment Development, 749-770. doi:10.1108/02621710910987647

Department of the Army. (1985). Leadership statement and quotes. Washington, DC: Department of the Army. Retrieved from buildingamidshipman.wordpress.com: https://buildingamidshipman.wordpress.com/

Goleman, D. (2012, April 23). Retrieved from www.youtube.com: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y7m9eNoB3NU

Am I a resonant leader?

Am I a resonant leader?  I believe I am.  However, I made that claim with long held assumptions about leadership.  The Army taught me that leadership was providing ‘purpose, direction, and motivation’.  However, ‘purpose, direction, and motivation’ could be attained through either transactional or transformational leadership (akin to dissonant and resonant leadership, respectively).  I believe that have led in a transformational way so I assumed that I was a resonant leader. 

            However, with self-reflection, and looking upon my leadership over the years, I realize that my environment drove my leadership style.  Rather than controlling the environment, it controlled me.  For instance, when the job demands were high and results were expected immediately, I led in a dissonant way.  For instance, in my early Army career, I succumbed often to ‘power stress’ – the stress associated with those in positions of power over others (Boyatzis & McKee, 2005).  I worked hard, very hard, to prove that I was deserving of a leadership position.  Consequently, I adopted the mindset of “work hard & play harder”, and thus engaging in destructive behavior (i.e. excessive drinking, partying, etc.) that I believed was the “reward” for my sacrifices.  Unfortunately, my destructive behavior also became my follower’s destructive behavior. 

            Years later, I no longer had the self-destructive behavior and was actually very focused and disciplined.  Yet, under demanding workplace conditions, I still acted in a dissonant manner.  This time around, I was so narrowly focused on job standards and results that I failed to properly interact with my followers.  There is an Army adage that says, ‘The more you sweat in training, the less you bleed in war’ – I took that axiom and made my followers “sweat”.  I pushed them hard and had little tolerance for failure or excuses.  I became socially and emotionally distant from my followers.  I was not necessarily concerned about their personal lives.  We were preparing for war – I believed that I was not here to be their friend but to be the leader that brought them back home alive.  Only later in my career (as a senior leader) did I realize that I was wrong.  I failed in showing compassion to my followers for their personal needs.  Kokemuller (2011) write that this type of dissonant leadership causes “emotional frustration, stress, burnout and disengagement” (para. 4) among followers.

            Yet despite my previous dissonant ways, I had gradually transformed (and am continuing to evolve) into a more resonant leader.  I believe that good leaders lead by example.  A good personal example inspires and builds trust with others.  This goes beyond displaying job knowledge and skills.  My example includes having strong values – values such as loyalty, duty, respect, selfless-service, honor, integrity, and personal courage.  Moreover, resonant leaders are said to have mindfulness, hope, and compassion (Teleos Leadership Institute , 2016).  I am mindful -- a mental state that I have learned to develop through critical thinking, yoga, and martial art – and control my emotions better.  I also have hope – I aspire to achieve more in both my personal and professional life e.g. quality relationships with my family, Jiu-jitsu (martial arts) mastery, and pursuing an MBA.  Moreover, I actively influence my family (e.g. spouse and kids), friends, and followers to do the same.  Lastly, I have compassion – I actively help others in both their good and bad times.  People often have the will to do something but are discouraged by what limits them.  I find purpose in helping other achieve their goals.

            Through this course’s teachings, I understand that emotions do matter (McKee, Boyatzis, & Johnston, 2008).  Moreover, I also understand that a resonant leader has greater awareness of him or herself and others.  Knowing this, I will be able to better manage others and myself in stressful and complex environments. 

References

Boyatzis, R., & McKee, A. (2005). Resonant leadership. Boston, MA: Harvard Business School Publishing.

Kokemuller, N. (2011). Retrieved from smallbusiness.chron.com: http://smallbusiness.chron.com/resonant-vs-dissonant-leadership-styles-65011.html

McKee, A., Boyatzis, R., & Johnston, F. (2008). Becoming a resonant leader. Boston, MA: Harvard Business School Publishing.

Teleos Leadership Institute . (2016). Retrieved from www.teleosleaders.com: http://www.teleosleaders.com/howwedoit/resonant.php

           

            

What is Great Leadership?

What is Great Leadership?

            Over the course of my MSLD studies, my notions and/or assumptions of leadership have changed.  In one area, the change was learning of leadership methodologies that I could use, another proverbial ‘tool’ to put into my leadership ‘toolbox’.  Yet, in another area – the concept of leadership – the change was significant in that I now view leadership differently.  I realized two things. First, there is no such thing as a ‘bad’ leader.  Second, being a leader requires a relationship with followers.

            From the age of 18 and through to 39 years old, I witnessed leadership through the lens of the Army culture.  The Army had a philosophy for transformational leadership, that is, to inspire and motivate followers.  The Army’s leadership model is Be, Know, Do (Department of the Army, 2006).  Yet, in actuality, many “leaders” in the Army practiced transactional leadership.  Transactional leadership was getting people to do something through simple reward and punishment.  As a result, many “followers” worked out of fear of reprisal rather than being inspired by a transcendent purpose.

             I once viewed leadership and management as synonymous, as did many others.  It was common to refer to someone that ‘outranked’ you as a leader whether he or she had leader attributes or not.  Leadership was considered inherent with a job position.  Therefore, soldiers categorized ‘good’ or ‘bad’ leaders.  Yet, I realize now that there were no ‘bad leaders’, they were really just people in a position of authority.  Boyatzis & McKee (2005) wrote that leadership is a relationship, that one cannot be a leader without followers.  Thus, those ‘bad leaders’ never had followers, they had subordinates that simply complied either to receive reward or avoid punishment.  These persons (aka ‘bad leaders’) had the following tendencies; they were egocentric, lacked compassion and/or empathy, were confrontational, and lacked trust in their relationships to name a few.  It was apparent which organizations had these ‘bad leaders’ because teamwork was supplanted by individual interest i.e. personal survival.

            Fortunately, there were also many great leaders in the Army.  One great leader that I looked up to was transformational.  He had traits and tendencies that resonated throughout the organization and his followers.  This good leader built relationships with the follower and his or her family.  He was trusting and empowered followers.  As a result, the organization had a family feel where each person strived to do his or her best so as to not let other down.  Lastly, this good leader ‘led by example’.  He made sure that he was of sound mind and body and sought to achieve mastery in all aspects of life, and he challenged others to do the same.

References

Boyatzis, R., & McKee, A. (2005). Resonant leadership. Boston, MA: Harvard Business School Publishing.

Department of the Army. (2006). Army Leadership. Washington, DC: Department of the Army.